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Want to learn how to stop depending on others for happiness? How to stop depending on others for approval, and how to stop being emotionally dependent on others? This post will teach you how to never depend on anyone but yourself when it comes to being happy!

A guide on how to stop depending on others for happiness (stop chasing him)

how to stop depending on others for happiness

Date published: February 10 2021

Want to learn how to stop depending on others for happiness? How to stop depending on others for approval, and how to stop being emotionally dependent on others? This post will teach you how to never depend on anyone but yourself when it comes to being happy!

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Depending on others for happiness can cause us to feel a lack of control, a lack of self-esteem. Like we are not good enough on our own, and that how we feel depends on what others say or do.

This is something that I struggled with a couple of years ago (and find myself still working through at times!) Over the years, I’ve developed certain mindset strategies to completely flip this dependence around!

After learning how to stop depending on others for happiness, outer events, circumstances, situations, and people no longer dictate your emotions and how you feel. You’ll stop chasing him and you’ll stop chasing people. Developing self-reliant skills brings the power back in your hands!

This post is all about how to stop depending on others for happiness!




A guide on how to stop depending on others for happiness

Let me first give you a little bit of a back story on how I developed these new mindsets…

After having been ghosted by a guy I really liked (you can listen to the story in episode 13 of my podcast), I was crushed and looking for any way to get the feeling I had when I was with him, back.

I realized that he no longer wanted to see me, and therefore I started seeking for this feeling in others. I started chasing other people in the hopes of getting this feeling back. I thought that the only way to get this feeling back was from him, or from somebody else, or at least from an external source.

Part 1: The mindset shift that changed everything (you’re only after a feeling)

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After doing a lot of self development work, I then realized that what I was essentially “chasing”, and what I was after, was simply a feeling. Not the person, not the relationship, not the memories we had, not the attachment I had to spending our future together, but instead, a simple feeling.

If you’re in a similar situation, where you just can’t seem to let someone go because you think that they will make you happy, ask yourself why that is. What is it that will be different if they are in your life? Dig deep, and you’ll find that it always comes down to a feeling.

This is such a powerful realization. At its core, you’re not after anything but the feeling. And what is a feeling? Something you feel internally. Something you have within yourself, and something you have control over. How empowering is that!

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As much as it may seem as though external things, events, situations, and circumstances make us happy, that is simply not true. What makes one person feel a certain way, won’t make someone else feel the same way. Therefore, it’s not the event at cause, it’s what you choose to make it mean, and what you choose to make yourself feel.




And what this mindset shift does, is that it takes the person off a pedestal. You’re no longer thinking that they’re “attainable” or “better” than you. Because you realize that it actually has nothing to do with them. When we treat someone as if they are on a pedestal, they remain on the pedestal. They remain “unattainable”, and “better” than you.

When you realize that it’s simply a feeling that you are seeking, you realize that this is something that comes from within. That you can generate yourself. It removes the importance of it having to come from one specific person.

Part 2: What is actually happening in your body

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Let’s talk about what is actually going on when you’re in a state of dependence.

What it looks like: when someone who looks a certain way says or does certain things, you feel a certain way inside.

What is actually happening: when someone who looks a certain way says or does certain things, you allow yourself to feel a certain way. Let’s be clear, they don’t (and can’t) MAKE you feel a certain way. They can certainly help you evoke certain feelings and emotions, but no one can ever force you to feel a certain way.

This brings me to our life rules. We each have our own set of rules about life. What external events, situations, circumstances, and people can or can’t make us feel a certain way. Because the same event will affect two different people, differently. It’s not about the event, it’s about how we interpret the event (the rule we’re making).

And if we can choose what can or can’t make us feel a certain way, why not simply evoke that feeling we want within us?

Part 3: Evoke the feeling

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One of my favorite ways to do this is through visualization. What is the feeling you’re after, and what is it that would “make” you feel that? Use that scenario/event/person, and visualize it. Feel it as though it was really happening. Why wait for the event to maybe happen to feel the feelings you want to feel?




Realizing that you get to feel the way that you want to feel whether the event is taking place outside of you, or whether you’re simply imagining it in your head.

Part 4: Attract it to you (bonus!)

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We’re always broadcasting an electromagnetic field around us, through our thoughts and feelings. By visualizing the event as though it’s already happening, you’re broadcasting the electromagnetic signature, the frequency, of that event, therefore, drawing the event to you!

So not only do you feel better in the moment, but you’re actually also re-arranging the energy around you to attract more events, situations, and people that will bring you more and more of those feelings!

The frequency you’re emitting is interacting with all the frequencies in the universe to rearrange your physical reality. To bring more and more energetic matches back to you.

Focusing on the feeling first is key to both feeling good, and also bringing events into your life that will continue to bring upon those feelings!

This post was all about how to stop depending on others for happiness! My hope is that this made you realize that you don’t need anything outside of you to make you happy. You make the rules on what can or can’t make you happy, so set them in your favor to feel the most happiness and joy!

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